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Understanding Grief: A Journey to Feeling Free and at Peace Again

The journey of grief is often associated with a set of well-known stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These stages have been widely accepted as a model for coping with loss, but what if there’s more to it than meets the eye? What if grief is not a linear process that we can neatly navigate and leave behind? I believe it is an ongoing, cyclical experience that accompanies us throughout our lives.

The traditional model of the five stages of grief originated with Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who initially developed it for terminally ill patients. However, when these stages were applied to mourners, they were mistakenly labeled as the “five stages of grief.” The cultural appeal of this concept was undeniable, as it suggested that grief could be overcome and resolved. The media embraced this idea, and many individuals believed that once they moved through these stages, their grief would be behind them. But life has a way of surprising us, and grief doesn’t adhere to a predefined timeline.

Grief is not confined to neat compartments; it doesn’t progress in a linear fashion. Instead, it is a complex and multifaceted experience that can manifest in various emotions, often out of order or all at once.

Hope Edelman, author of The AfterGrief, presents a new model for long-term bereavement that goes beyond the limitations of the traditional five stages, which to me makes a lot of sense. She discovered that acceptance, often seen as the final stage of grief, is not an endpoint, but a recurring way station that we revisit multiple times throughout our lives. It became evident to her that grief is not something to “get over” or “put down”; rather, it is something we carry with us.

Grief can spike during significant events such as birthdays, anniversaries, or personal milestones. These moments trigger a renewed sense of loss and may intensify the grieving process. Grief unexpectedly resurfaces, catching individuals off guard. An example of this is how a song instantly can transport us back to cherished memories of time spent with certain individuals, bringing up happy or sad emotions, including grief.

Grief is an ever-evolving negotiation with the realities of loss and our relationship with those realities. It changes over time as we grow, mature, and develop new perspectives. This process can be unsettling, as it challenges the familiar narrative we have constructed around our grief. Realizing that emotions and feelings are a gift to humans will help us to embrace the grief when it arises as something not to be feared, but as an opportunity for growth. As we gain new insights and reframe our perspectives, we can find meaning in our circumstances and use our experiences as a catalyst for personal development.

The circumstances of our grief are a story that can be shared. Such sharing of experiences can offer a feeling of connectedness, togetherness, which can help us feel less alone or isolated as we move through the grief in that moment of time.

While we may not have had a choice in the events that caused our grief, we do have the power to shape our response to them. As we navigate the ongoing process of grief throughout our lives, we can actively choose to find meaning, growth, and purpose in our journey. We have the capacity to better the world through our transformed perspectives and newfound resilience.

This kind of reframing is a deliberate choice to shift our perspective. It involves acknowledging the sadness and tragedy that accompanies loss, while also recognizing that positive outcomes can emerge from these experiences. Though we may have felt powerless and out of control when someone died, we still have agency in how we carry that loss forward. By embracing the power of reframing, we can transform our grief into a force for personal and even societal change.

The traditional notion of grief as a linear progression through fixed stages no longer serves us. We can now embrace the complexity of grief and the fluidity of our emotional landscape. By recognizing that grief is an ongoing process that evolves alongside us, we can cultivate a more compassionate and nuanced understanding of ourselves and others.

It is time to let go of the illusion of “getting over” grief. It is natural for emotions to resurface, even after years or decades. By sharing personal stories with others, we can find healing, strength, and a renewed sense of purpose.

Grief is not a problem to be solved or a chapter to be closed—it is an integral part of the human experience. As we continue to evolve and learn, we must embrace the ongoing nature of grief and approach it with compassion and understanding. In doing so, we can find comfort in knowing that we are not alone in our journey and that there is beauty and resilience to be discovered along the way.

Edelman’s work in The AfterGrief reminds us that grief is not a one-time event with a definitive endpoint. It is an ongoing process that weaves itself into the fabric of our lives. By embracing the complexity of grief, reframing our perspectives, and finding meaning in our experiences, we can navigate the lifelong journey of grief with resilience and compassion.

As we honor our losses and integrate them into our lives, we can become agents of change, not only for ourselves but also for others who are experiencing their own grief. Through our transformed understanding and willingness to share our stories, we can create a more empathetic and supportive society—one that recognizes grief as a natural and transformative part of the human experience. Let us come together, share our stories, and support one another as we navigate the beautiful and challenging terrain of grief throughout our lives.

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